The Us Profile™

What The Us Profile™ Is

Two people can care about each other and still experience the same conversation in different ways. The Us Profile™ places both perspectives into one structured view of the relationship.

Each partner completes the Profile independently. The combined report identifies both Portraits, emotional strengths and growth edges, Connection Styles™, and Security Patterns. It then shows how those individual patterns create your Shared Connection Cycle and affect the 7 Foundations.

Every section is drawn from what both of you shared. The result is a detailed relationship report built for this partnership, this current season, and the next work in front of you.

Sample Us Profile™ Excerpt

Jordan & Casey · Portraits: The Mentor™ + The Protector™

Jordan reaches for a full conversation when closeness feels uncertain. Casey needs time to process before speaking. Each response makes sense from inside it. Together, the pattern intensifies: the more Jordan reaches, the more Casey turns inward; the more Casey turns inward, the harder Jordan reaches.

“One person reaches for contact. The other reaches for time. The relationship changes when both moves become visible.”

Jordan's Connection Style™: Encourager™

Casey's Connection Style™: Clarifier™

Communication: Say the full concern earlier

Conflict: Build a pause with a return

Trust: Make consistency visible

Intimacy: Let the inner experience enter

Primary Focus: Name the loop before it starts

One Relationship. Three Perspectives.

Every relationship includes your experience, your partner's experience, and the patterns created between you. The Us Profile™ brings all three into view.

You

Explore your Portrait, Connection Style, relationship security patterns, emotional strengths and growth edges, and your experience across the 7 Foundations.

Your Partner

Understand how your partner experiences many of those same areas, including where your perspectives align and where they differ.

You Together

See the patterns created between you, including your relationship dynamics, connection cycle, strengths, gaps, and areas that deserve greater attention.

The 7 Foundations Framework™: See Your Relationship From More Than One Angle

Your Profile explores how each partner experiences the 7 Foundations and brings those perspectives together to reveal areas of strength, areas with room to develop, and places where your experiences may differ.

Communication

How the full truth travels between you, including needs, appreciation, hard concerns, tone, timing, screens, and the experience of being heard.

Conflict

How tension begins, what each partner does under pressure, how pauses work, and what helps the two of you reach a complete repair.

Trust

How reliability and transparency create safety, where uncertainty gathers, and which repeated actions strengthen confidence in the relationship.

Intimacy

How each of you experiences closeness, where access has narrowed, and what helps vulnerability receive trust, presence, and acceptance.

Finances

How financial history, responsibility, power, spending, saving, and future priorities affect the life the two of you are building.

Boundaries

How the two of you protect personal limits, shared commitments, family relationships, attention, privacy, and the time your relationship requires.

Growth

How each person is developing, how the relationship supports that development, and how both of you keep building toward a future with shared meaning.

Sample Partner Comparison Grid: Jordan and Casey's Foundation-by-Foundation reading, showing each partner's result across Communication, Conflict, Trust, Intimacy, Finances, Boundaries, and Growth.

Legend: A stronger experience in this foundation. Working well, with a softer edge worth attention. Asking for the most focused work right now.

See What's Inside: A Profile Built Around the Two of You

Instead of describing everything in text, here is a preview of what your Profile actually contains.

01. Your Relationship Summary

Get a high-level view of your relationship, including your Relationship Snapshot, Partner Comparison, key findings, key pressure points, and Primary Focus.

02. Your Individual Profiles

Explore each partner's Portrait, Connection Style™, relationship security patterns, emotional strengths and growth edges, partnership style, and experience across the 7 Foundations.

03. You as a Couple

See what happens when your individual patterns come together, including your couple dynamics, Connection Cycle, strengths, gaps, and shared experience across the 7 Foundations.

04. Your Alignment Snapshot

See where your perspectives currently align and where meaningful differences deserve greater attention.

05. Your Targeted Action Plan

Turn what you learn into practical relationship-development activities connected to your results.

06. Conscious Conversations

Explore personalized conversations with context for why each conversation matters and guidance for approaching them together.

For Relationships at Different Stages

The Us Profile™ can be useful when you are dating, engaged, married, building a life together, navigating a major transition, or trying to understand a pattern that has been difficult to change.

You do not need to be in crisis. Some couples use the Profile to work through strain. Others use it to understand each other more fully and strengthen what is already working.

Turn Insight Into Action

Understanding your relationship is only the beginning. The Us Profile™ translates your results into practical ways to strengthen what is working and address the areas that deserve attention.

Sample practice, Foundation: Communication — Movie Night With One Question. Pick a movie together, and afterward, each ask the other one honest question about how it connects to your own relationship. Jordan's responses point to conversations that stay surface-level unless something outside the two of you gives them an opening. Casey's responses point to needing an easier entry point before a deeper topic feels safe to raise. Progress looks like a shared, low-pressure moment becoming a natural bridge into a real conversation.

You will know it is working when the question after the movie leads somewhere neither of you expected, and it happens without either of you having to force it.

Some Conversations Deserve More Intention

Your Profile identifies conversations worth having based on the patterns and priorities reflected in both partners' responses. Conscious Conversations give you a starting point, context for why the conversation matters, and guidance for approaching it together.

Sample Conscious Conversation: “What would help each of us feel more understood during a difficult conversation?” Take turns answering without responding to what the other says yet. Notice what surprises you. Then talk about one small change you could each try the next time a hard conversation comes up.

Built for Relationship Life Today

The Us Profile™ reflects the pressures affecting relationships now: work enters home life, phones divide attention, money carries history, family roles create invisible labor, and digital decisions influence closeness and trust.

Phone use and emotional availability. Work-life balance and shared time. Financial transparency. Technology and intimacy. Mental load and role balance. Family and in-law boundaries. Online privacy and trust. Parenting and caregiving. AI tools and digital companionship.

Built From Both of You. Written for the Two of You.

Both partners complete their questions independently. The Us Profile™ brings those perspectives together to create a personalized relationship Profile that reflects individual experiences as well as the patterns between you.

Your Profile draws from structured responses and your own reflections to create insights specific to your relationship.

Each Partner Completes Their Profile Questions

Complete your questions independently so each perspective can be captured.

Your Perspectives Come Together

Your responses are examined individually and together across your relationship patterns and the 7 Foundations.

Receive The Us Profile™

Receive a comprehensive personalized Profile designed to support reflection, conversation, and relationship development over time.

Each partner completes the Profile privately. The shared report combines both sets of responses into relationship-level insights, patterns, and findings. Your responses are used to generate and deliver your Profile and are not sold. See our Privacy Policy for information about how your data is processed and protected.

The Us Profile™ is designed for couples who can speak honestly with safety and mutual freedom. When difficult conversations involve fear, threats, control, emotional abuse, physical harm, or retaliation, qualified professional support should come first.

A Relationship Resource You Can Return To

The Us Profile™ is designed for more than one reading. Revisit your individual insights, work through your personalized practices, return to Conscious Conversations, and use your Profile as your relationship continues to develop.

A comprehensive, personalized Profile designed to be used over time.

Your Profile Can Go Further With You

Use The Us Profile™ privately as a couple, or bring it into a session with Richard and Nancy to explore the patterns, conversations, and practices that matter most to your relationship.

See Yourself More Clearly. Understand Your Partner More Fully.

Discover the patterns shaping the relationship you are building together.

The Us Profile™: $99 per couple, introductory price. Both partners included.

The Us Profile™ — Better understanding. Stronger relationships.